I have been very lazy in updating my blog thanks to FB !! and as usual I muddle my brain as the more storage needed for my data, the more servers and hence more offices and less greener pastures(I know, crazy thinking, but that's me)
Anyway some quips / remarks / retorts from Nish that I need to record.
Rish still is very mischievous while Nish is more responsible and reliable. He is like a little adult whom I can entrust responsibilities beyond his age while our Rish is the don't-care master. whatever u say will vanish into thin air if he notices the ipod/iphone /cellphone and he is more interested in charging them. Nish on the other hand, can execute 3-4 step instructions and come back and update me :)
The other day I poured his cereal into his bowl and I was adding milk. he quietly came and closed the cereal container and kept it back in the pantry. Some days he would reach for the soy milk while I pour the cereal. Know exactly what next. very focused ! He can pack his set of spare clothes, lotion, soap and under garments if I ask him to get ready for his swim class.. A very no effort kid except for some attitude which he shows at times. very endearing kid !
Cares a lot and expects the same. Both of them woke this morn and did not want to go to school. So I said I will go and they can stay home, cook, do the laundry etc etc. Nish said they would play while rish said he would cook potato subzi. Nish immediately said "Rish, u will cut your fingers while cutting the potatoes." Thinks really far ahead. But this said, he will also punch, bite rishu's shirt and really hit him in momentary emotional surges.
The other day there was some rasam left and I was drinking it. "Mummy, if you drink all the rasam what will daddy have for his lunch ??" and then this morn I was imitating the way he used his hands so articulately when he needs to express anything. He got angry and said " Mom, stop ! concentrate on your work !" Seriously this kid is hard to get angry with.
Very very emotional. gets angry at the snap of a finger and cools down. But as he grows I need to work on this. It is always good to be emotionally stable and no matter how true your words are or how much you care - the world is mostly incapable of analyzing. Even if you are the worst person on earth and maintain your silence, the world will exalt you in most cases. And for an emotional person, it is very hard if they are genuine but still are not valued for it...so WIP for me and him ;-)
when I had taken the kids to the doc the other day, someone asked him how old he is and he says " I am 3 but i act like a grown-up !!! My brother is 5 but he acts like a 1 yr old !!" So now I need to really watch what I talk.
A very good listener and very patient...tries really hard to swim, color etc .
takes himself and his works seriously...
It is really very cute to watch him getting angry as he points his finger and rattles of stuff that does not make sense ;-) But he has an attitude and that is also from me . But of course as I grew, I changed ! I think girls in general soften as they age and a lot more after marriage and kids. But I would like for him to change by the time he is 10. so another WIP.
The one thing he gets from his dad is the meticulousness. Does not mean the dad has not passed on any unwanted traits ;) Rish is more like his dad in many ways.
But mostly nothing affects/ effects the people around unless you are emotionally tangled :-D
Showing posts with label Rish. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Rish. Show all posts
Apr 11, 2011
Mar 9, 2011
Life !!
Dear Rish,Nish,
whenever I see a youngster buying cigarettes or smoking, it stabs my heart.
It makes me fear about your teens and the vices that you will succumb to :(
I used to be very strongly opinionated as a youngster and my dislike for smoking and drinking was/is one of them. I (used to) feel that it is a sign of weakness or a false sense of ego just to boost your image in front of others whereas really standing for a good social cause than these pursuits mark more to your character is my opinion. I had a good set of male friends who used to smoke and I used to tease them not to drink water from my bottle etc etc . There were a set of really nice guys with whom their habits were a barrier. I hurt some with my frankness but only with the hope that they will quit these habits for their own benefit. As I grew older I realized with stronger opinions/dislikes sometimes you are thrust into them. So, now I am scared to condemn people with these habits for fear that my own darlings will fall prey to them.
I know that even after 3 months of bed rest and having been under a knife to get you both safe and healthy to this world, I do not even have an iota of right to force you on the way to live once you are on your own. But remember , all vices are a vice only till u try. Once u try, it is hard to accept it as a vice. and it is harder to come out of it than not trying it. I have not been an angel and I have had my share of shortcomings too but once you become a parent the tinge of sadness that hits you on every bad possibility that your child may encounter you start wishing that you had been more perfect so that u can merit asking the same for your children.
whenever I see a youngster buying cigarettes or smoking, it stabs my heart.
It makes me fear about your teens and the vices that you will succumb to :(
I used to be very strongly opinionated as a youngster and my dislike for smoking and drinking was/is one of them. I (used to) feel that it is a sign of weakness or a false sense of ego just to boost your image in front of others whereas really standing for a good social cause than these pursuits mark more to your character is my opinion. I had a good set of male friends who used to smoke and I used to tease them not to drink water from my bottle etc etc . There were a set of really nice guys with whom their habits were a barrier. I hurt some with my frankness but only with the hope that they will quit these habits for their own benefit. As I grew older I realized with stronger opinions/dislikes sometimes you are thrust into them. So, now I am scared to condemn people with these habits for fear that my own darlings will fall prey to them.
I know that even after 3 months of bed rest and having been under a knife to get you both safe and healthy to this world, I do not even have an iota of right to force you on the way to live once you are on your own. But remember , all vices are a vice only till u try. Once u try, it is hard to accept it as a vice. and it is harder to come out of it than not trying it. I have not been an angel and I have had my share of shortcomings too but once you become a parent the tinge of sadness that hits you on every bad possibility that your child may encounter you start wishing that you had been more perfect so that u can merit asking the same for your children.
Oct 20, 2010
High Five
Dearest ladooo,
you always love when I address you this way :) and you are turning to be one slowly..I guess you are being less troublesome and stubborn with age. The one thing that you really need to work on is being patient and listen and follow directions well from others than from yourself.
Nish is really lucky to have you as an elder brother. you are one who can engage yourself very constructively for a significant amount of time be it doing some coloring or worksheets or just playing in the yard. your imagination is very wide and amusing to us. you suddenly seem to have grown so much. Right from gulping your milk down, cleaning yourself after the big job, soaping yourself , teaching nish occasionally,trying to be patient with nish for at least sometime before you give up and get mad - you are definitely growing.
you still love anything academic. I am a happy mom who has taught you the basics of addition and subtraction in not more than ten minutes :) when I was complaining that nish has no inclination to spell or learn phonics and you were so good at his age, I was amazed at you trying to teach him C-A-T, B-A-T etc with correct phonics just the way I used to , except that you never watched me !!! when we were teaching nish the phonics for "C" as 'K' you pointed out that we also missed the 'S' sound - the last I knew you doing phonics was 2 years back !!! and when we asked you for an example my mind was thing of cessation, cede etc and thinking how you can come up with something , you stumped us by saying "decide" in the next instant.
These days you amaze us by your sketches though you do not have the patience to color it well. I hope the karate class builds your patience and listening skills.
It is an effort to make you practice but I hope very soon you start loving it.
You are thrilled these days to go to school because Nish has finally joined school after a long wait from you..whenever you asked me that you wanted to come home for lunch/nap it used to pain me as I was not able to do that since nish was already handful for me. I enjoy putting you to sleep on weekends as it makes up for the weekdays and the nights as you prefer sleeping by yourself in your favorite car bed(making it easier for nish and me). I ask you the standard qs "do want to sleep with adi, kiss, hugs, pinches, tickles or punches" and you have a good laugh asking just for the good stuff and enjoy my kisses, hugs and tickles making me the happiest mom. and I admonish/threaten you for a second after that and you feel satisfied and sleep off. The rare occasions that you do not, you let all of us sleep in peace and quietly engage yourself.
Suddenly you feel you are the bigger brother and try to lift nish or help him brush/soap and sing a lullaby for him after asking me to sing it for you :)you even tell him "I am the older one. you can learn from me " !!
But the one thing that you have not outgrown is your picky likes for food..you are very clear and particular in what you want to eat as you were right from your birth!
I could not stop laughing when someone offered you soda saying that " I am not supposed to have it. I don't want it". If only it was chocolates instead !!!
you enjoy teaching all of us your newly learnt slokas and being the sloka teacher, nish being your ardent learner. you can also point out discrepancies very easily. while reading your temple handouts on Ganesha and Saraswathi you said very clearly that the picture has Ganesha's right tusk broken and saraswathi in pink when the theory stated that Ganesha had a left broken tusk and Sarasathi clad in white !
you love to learn new languages and keep asking us tamil equivalents for new words and remember it just once after we say and make it a point to use it as much so that you can remember. you are really our pride and a role model in so many ways. I hope and pray that you acquire a bit more patience and listening and then there is no stopping you. we are so lucky to have you and I feel truly blessed.
Love you lots laddooo....I guess by next year you will be able to read and comprehend my posts to an extent..
you always love when I address you this way :) and you are turning to be one slowly..I guess you are being less troublesome and stubborn with age. The one thing that you really need to work on is being patient and listen and follow directions well from others than from yourself.
Nish is really lucky to have you as an elder brother. you are one who can engage yourself very constructively for a significant amount of time be it doing some coloring or worksheets or just playing in the yard. your imagination is very wide and amusing to us. you suddenly seem to have grown so much. Right from gulping your milk down, cleaning yourself after the big job, soaping yourself , teaching nish occasionally,trying to be patient with nish for at least sometime before you give up and get mad - you are definitely growing.
you still love anything academic. I am a happy mom who has taught you the basics of addition and subtraction in not more than ten minutes :) when I was complaining that nish has no inclination to spell or learn phonics and you were so good at his age, I was amazed at you trying to teach him C-A-T, B-A-T etc with correct phonics just the way I used to , except that you never watched me !!! when we were teaching nish the phonics for "C" as 'K' you pointed out that we also missed the 'S' sound - the last I knew you doing phonics was 2 years back !!! and when we asked you for an example my mind was thing of cessation, cede etc and thinking how you can come up with something , you stumped us by saying "decide" in the next instant.
These days you amaze us by your sketches though you do not have the patience to color it well. I hope the karate class builds your patience and listening skills.
It is an effort to make you practice but I hope very soon you start loving it.
You are thrilled these days to go to school because Nish has finally joined school after a long wait from you..whenever you asked me that you wanted to come home for lunch/nap it used to pain me as I was not able to do that since nish was already handful for me. I enjoy putting you to sleep on weekends as it makes up for the weekdays and the nights as you prefer sleeping by yourself in your favorite car bed(making it easier for nish and me). I ask you the standard qs "do want to sleep with adi, kiss, hugs, pinches, tickles or punches" and you have a good laugh asking just for the good stuff and enjoy my kisses, hugs and tickles making me the happiest mom. and I admonish/threaten you for a second after that and you feel satisfied and sleep off. The rare occasions that you do not, you let all of us sleep in peace and quietly engage yourself.
Suddenly you feel you are the bigger brother and try to lift nish or help him brush/soap and sing a lullaby for him after asking me to sing it for you :)you even tell him "I am the older one. you can learn from me " !!
But the one thing that you have not outgrown is your picky likes for food..you are very clear and particular in what you want to eat as you were right from your birth!
I could not stop laughing when someone offered you soda saying that " I am not supposed to have it. I don't want it". If only it was chocolates instead !!!
you enjoy teaching all of us your newly learnt slokas and being the sloka teacher, nish being your ardent learner. you can also point out discrepancies very easily. while reading your temple handouts on Ganesha and Saraswathi you said very clearly that the picture has Ganesha's right tusk broken and saraswathi in pink when the theory stated that Ganesha had a left broken tusk and Sarasathi clad in white !
you love to learn new languages and keep asking us tamil equivalents for new words and remember it just once after we say and make it a point to use it as much so that you can remember. you are really our pride and a role model in so many ways. I hope and pray that you acquire a bit more patience and listening and then there is no stopping you. we are so lucky to have you and I feel truly blessed.
Love you lots laddooo....I guess by next year you will be able to read and comprehend my posts to an extent..
May 29, 2010
Not mall anymore
Nish gets very offended if we say he cannot do something because he is a small boy.Keeps telling "I am not mall boy...am big boy" But very conveniently uses the small boy card for everything he wont do like sleeping by himself or cleaning up !!!!
Whenever I scream at Rish he tells me " Don't shout ! Then Daddy will not put news for you. We will not take you to the park. you will be alone at home " ;-) Too much of copying us.
These days his favorite lines are "I CANT DO IT" "I DONT WANT IT" when he is angry and he says that in a very angry and deliberate tone. This is often accompanied by running away from the scene and a sulking face and chin touching his chest and head bent. Sometimes it is him on his knees and head on the floor. It is very very cute to watch but sometimes gets on your nerves ! 2 1/2 years and where did you get this attitude from ???!!!
He also dances in joy these days and since his actions are totally in sync with what he is feeling inside it makes it very sweet.
He also has loads of empathy. Even if I scold Rish for being mean to him and Rish is upset he very sweetly tries to cheer Rish up. And wants Rish to experience the joy he is enjoying with any toy / game whatever.
Today after a long time his I could see his sweetness than his stubbornness and I felt still he is at his cutest best. Slowly memories of his baby days are fading :-(
He is also very very clear in what he wants of himself and others and has the same clarity in expressing it and getting it done. And now also does quite a few things independently - potty (except for cleaning part we need to go) - wearing his underpants and shorts.
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Rish on the other hand seems to be more childish and silly than what he was :-(
But he is in many ways easier to handle than nish especially that he lacks all the stubbornness of his brother.
I feel sometimes he is better behaved when we are not around. The other day I was taking a shower and asked Rish to dress himself and Nish and when I came out, both were dressed - ready to go :-)) Also sometimes I see him telling Nish not to do some wrong stuff and consoling him when he is upset. But when I am around I see the totally opposite reaction. Not sure if a 4.5 yr old has ways of getting back at their parents at such a tender age ;-) But his ego is at an all time high. He hates being suppressed and screamed at but I wish he equally resents doing these acts that lead us to act that way with him.
He is still a pleasure to teach. Just taught him maybe 30 minutes of time reading and now he can tell the time pretty well(except for when the minute hand is in between 2 numbers).
I am hoping for some magic when they turn 3 and 5 with regards to their behavior. Both are extremely bright kids but high on energy and disciplining them seems to be a challenge..They are such riots ! I saw a real change in Rish after his 3rd and I have heard 5 is also a magical number when kids change significantly and with their birthdays just a few months away, this is the only wish I have apart from an overdose of good health :-)
Apr 19, 2010
School Decision
Before I could reach the US, I wanted to complete all admission formalities and enroll Rish in his previous montessori. Nish I was still undecided. Thankfully, R's busy schedule and this getting lost amongst all the other happenings around us, I found a much better choice.
Once I came back, after a week's jetlag was seriously looking for some art and piano classes for Rish. Then I found a school which had a 4 hour schedule with 1 hr art, 1 hr music, 1 hr dance and 1 hr theater. How cool that is ? I know he will catch up on his acad. anytime and very fast, so was really happy. The next question was Nish. Luckily I found a church school on the way back from the arts school and it seemed a very friendly atmosphere. It is cheaper than the montessori, has a great social atmosphere, I get daily reports of what he did and I get to pick him for lunch..So in all, I am paying only for what I want. I have the option of picking him at 2:30 but since I pick Rish by 12:45, I do not want to deprive Nish of the piping hot fresh food ;-)
Till the morning they had to join school, I was contemplating sending them to the old montessori as I will get 3 days of 8:30 - 3 p.m for myself..There are a lot of pending tasks that i need to get to ! But my heart ruled my head and I went by that.
But the only catch is both will be home for nap and I need that break very badly to recharge for the evening....Trying to train them to sleep by themselves but it is very hard and hoping I do not regret the school decision for this reason !!!
Anyway, I am a happy mom when I pick them at noon, both because of the choice of schools and also the fresh food awaiting us at home :-)
Once I came back, after a week's jetlag was seriously looking for some art and piano classes for Rish. Then I found a school which had a 4 hour schedule with 1 hr art, 1 hr music, 1 hr dance and 1 hr theater. How cool that is ? I know he will catch up on his acad. anytime and very fast, so was really happy. The next question was Nish. Luckily I found a church school on the way back from the arts school and it seemed a very friendly atmosphere. It is cheaper than the montessori, has a great social atmosphere, I get daily reports of what he did and I get to pick him for lunch..So in all, I am paying only for what I want. I have the option of picking him at 2:30 but since I pick Rish by 12:45, I do not want to deprive Nish of the piping hot fresh food ;-)
Till the morning they had to join school, I was contemplating sending them to the old montessori as I will get 3 days of 8:30 - 3 p.m for myself..There are a lot of pending tasks that i need to get to ! But my heart ruled my head and I went by that.
But the only catch is both will be home for nap and I need that break very badly to recharge for the evening....Trying to train them to sleep by themselves but it is very hard and hoping I do not regret the school decision for this reason !!!
Anyway, I am a happy mom when I pick them at noon, both because of the choice of schools and also the fresh food awaiting us at home :-)
Apr 15, 2010
Four going on fourteen !!!!
I am clueless how to respond / react many times with Rish. He totally baffles me when he reacts like a teenager to my requests. The only good part is the child in him is still alive and filled with so much innocence that makes me forget how he behaves other times.
Hoping to have a rocking time when he is actually in his teens....after all teenage tantrums do not last long and I have already seen the beginning :-P
Hoping to have a rocking time when he is actually in his teens....after all teenage tantrums do not last long and I have already seen the beginning :-P
Nov 20, 2009
cucumber idlis and avocado dosas aInd a peaceful night
I have heard a few mothers complain about their kids not eating their veggies.
I have the totally opposite situation. of course I am very happy that my son loves hos veggies
but the problem is even for veggies free dishes like idli and dosas he needs some veggies.
Need to get him to the stage where he can relish it with chutneys ;-)
so avocados and cucumbers are a great help. I just chop them into small chunks and that becomes his veggie side. Happy child and happy mom :-)
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No matter how frustrated your child makes you feel, no matter how much you scream and be mad at them , end of the day when it comes to putting your kids to sleep there is so much peace and calm in the kisses and hugs exchanged and so much comfort in putting your hands around each other. What a bliss to be a child and be so pure at heart and what an even bigger bliss to have such an experience with your child !!
I have the totally opposite situation. of course I am very happy that my son loves hos veggies
but the problem is even for veggies free dishes like idli and dosas he needs some veggies.
Need to get him to the stage where he can relish it with chutneys ;-)
so avocados and cucumbers are a great help. I just chop them into small chunks and that becomes his veggie side. Happy child and happy mom :-)
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No matter how frustrated your child makes you feel, no matter how much you scream and be mad at them , end of the day when it comes to putting your kids to sleep there is so much peace and calm in the kisses and hugs exchanged and so much comfort in putting your hands around each other. What a bliss to be a child and be so pure at heart and what an even bigger bliss to have such an experience with your child !!
Oct 23, 2009
Questions, Answers and Interpretations
Do you want apple or orange ? - Orange
Do you want orange or apple? - apple
Do you want toys or lego - lego
Do you want lego or toys - toys
Me and Rish laugh when nish answers like this. of course, rish is the one who has max. fun wording these questions. when rishu was close to 2.5 I used to concerned that he is not able to interpret these qs. Poor first-borns and the expectations we have from them ;-)
But slowly nish is getting there where he answers 1 or 2 qs right and though I am happy he is learning everything right he does, i feel he is becoming a bigger boy. In contrast to when I wanted Rishab to learn everything right and proper !!
Rish is in that stage where he acts as the monkey boss and teaches nish to do all naughty things such as dropping the toilet rolls in the commode, put washed vessels in the sink , trash good stuff since he knows he will be punished if he does the act.
And Nish is the perfect "adi aal"(henchman) totally following the instructions.
He is a total sweet-heart and listens to most instructions given by his parents. So I guess in order to create a balance his anna is there teaching him all these things.
Nish is in that totally cute and cuddly stage. It is amazing the way I see him connect to people and slowly I would have to share him with the world outside. Sigh !
Today I was just bored and in no mood for anything and was just surfing. It just took some silly banter and a hug and kiss from Nish and here I am happily recording my memories :-)
Do you want orange or apple? - apple
Do you want toys or lego - lego
Do you want lego or toys - toys
Me and Rish laugh when nish answers like this. of course, rish is the one who has max. fun wording these questions. when rishu was close to 2.5 I used to concerned that he is not able to interpret these qs. Poor first-borns and the expectations we have from them ;-)
But slowly nish is getting there where he answers 1 or 2 qs right and though I am happy he is learning everything right he does, i feel he is becoming a bigger boy. In contrast to when I wanted Rishab to learn everything right and proper !!
Rish is in that stage where he acts as the monkey boss and teaches nish to do all naughty things such as dropping the toilet rolls in the commode, put washed vessels in the sink , trash good stuff since he knows he will be punished if he does the act.
And Nish is the perfect "adi aal"(henchman) totally following the instructions.
He is a total sweet-heart and listens to most instructions given by his parents. So I guess in order to create a balance his anna is there teaching him all these things.
Nish is in that totally cute and cuddly stage. It is amazing the way I see him connect to people and slowly I would have to share him with the world outside. Sigh !
Today I was just bored and in no mood for anything and was just surfing. It just took some silly banter and a hug and kiss from Nish and here I am happily recording my memories :-)
Sep 28, 2009
Thithab turns 4
Dear Thithu,
This is what mishy mishy calls you now. I cannot believe how the years have flown by and that you have kutty at home calling you anna :-)
We have seen you blossom in a never before way in the past year. While you amazed so many with your intelligence, your appa and I had been waiting for you to start communicating more with us. We never realized that we had to teach you to talk than to study ;-)
Till you were two, you were the silent observant kinds happy to be by yourself.
I started working from when you were 4 months old and you were such an easy baby, sleeping well, feeding decently that I hardly felt the strain.(as opposed to nish, just staying home with him was more tiring than when I worked with you !! )
It was only when Nish was born, we saw you reacting sometimes with jealousy. You did not know how to show it and started being a bit aggressive. I guess you picked that from me since I would sometimes vent out my tiredness, frustration on you. But as you learned many things, I also learned many parenting lessons and I realized how much what I practice comes back to you.
It was very hard managing with both of you when you were 2.5 and nish was 0.5 years old. He would be sleepy and you would be around and I would wait for a quiet 5 minute period so that I can leave nish on the crib. That was the time when you acted as if you understood my plight and when I would ask you to stay put with absolute conviction that you will not even understand what I meant, many times you would remain absorbed in your books and I would be successful with my attempt ;-) It used to break my heart to shove you away while feeding mish mish but then I would drop him the minute I was done and take you on my lap.
While you were close to 3 years, me and mish fell sick and it was very hard time. You had just recovered. I was too tired taking care of me and him. once i made lunch and fed u guys I used to be too tired and though nish would nap, sometimes u were awake. and I would ask you to stay silent and that I had to rest as I was sick. and you were by yourself for an entire hour those few days while I could recharge myself.
Me and you were silent partners in cheating on nish. On days when he missed his nap, or the nights that you were not sleepy I would ask you to pretend to sleep and you would stay in your room till I left nish in the crib !! and when he would refuse to eat his stuff or drink his milk, I would ask you to pretend to eat and never once did u really eat ! but it did the trick to get nish to eat. Though I have screamed, lost my temper with you for not understanding many small things that most kids would, I felt blessed that at times of real need and desperation you have not let me down.
I have always admired the way how you could really eat your food so well and neatly and SLOWLY - me and nish can never do that. and the way you crave for your veggies has made many moms jealous of me :-) I know i am very stingy with candies and junk food but you have always been nice and very few times have made it hard for me by asking those and even the times you ask, I feel you deserve it.
you are always a pleasure to teach and I have been very very happy when I see you grasp things in the first or second attempt itself. It has made my life very easy. otherwise I would have been helpless managing the home, kids and teaching you too. I wish you also become a pleasure to be with at home, not now, in a few years at least. I understand that this is your monkeying phase, that nothing can give you more pleasure than doing many silly things and these will be the memories later on and that I will also threaten you when you grow up of having such monkey offsprings ;-)
Though I am the harshest with you, I scream at you many many times, sometimes scare you out when both of you become so hard to handle, am too tired and exhausted and when you don't understand I lose my temper - I still love you so so much. Many people around say that you will be a whiz kid, genius etc. But I will be very happy as long as you are happy with what you do in life. I wish that you are filled with abundant health and happiness always. And I truly hope you will be a fine example for your little brother.
This is what mishy mishy calls you now. I cannot believe how the years have flown by and that you have kutty at home calling you anna :-)
We have seen you blossom in a never before way in the past year. While you amazed so many with your intelligence, your appa and I had been waiting for you to start communicating more with us. We never realized that we had to teach you to talk than to study ;-)
Till you were two, you were the silent observant kinds happy to be by yourself.
I started working from when you were 4 months old and you were such an easy baby, sleeping well, feeding decently that I hardly felt the strain.(as opposed to nish, just staying home with him was more tiring than when I worked with you !! )
It was only when Nish was born, we saw you reacting sometimes with jealousy. You did not know how to show it and started being a bit aggressive. I guess you picked that from me since I would sometimes vent out my tiredness, frustration on you. But as you learned many things, I also learned many parenting lessons and I realized how much what I practice comes back to you.
It was very hard managing with both of you when you were 2.5 and nish was 0.5 years old. He would be sleepy and you would be around and I would wait for a quiet 5 minute period so that I can leave nish on the crib. That was the time when you acted as if you understood my plight and when I would ask you to stay put with absolute conviction that you will not even understand what I meant, many times you would remain absorbed in your books and I would be successful with my attempt ;-) It used to break my heart to shove you away while feeding mish mish but then I would drop him the minute I was done and take you on my lap.
While you were close to 3 years, me and mish fell sick and it was very hard time. You had just recovered. I was too tired taking care of me and him. once i made lunch and fed u guys I used to be too tired and though nish would nap, sometimes u were awake. and I would ask you to stay silent and that I had to rest as I was sick. and you were by yourself for an entire hour those few days while I could recharge myself.
Me and you were silent partners in cheating on nish. On days when he missed his nap, or the nights that you were not sleepy I would ask you to pretend to sleep and you would stay in your room till I left nish in the crib !! and when he would refuse to eat his stuff or drink his milk, I would ask you to pretend to eat and never once did u really eat ! but it did the trick to get nish to eat. Though I have screamed, lost my temper with you for not understanding many small things that most kids would, I felt blessed that at times of real need and desperation you have not let me down.
I have always admired the way how you could really eat your food so well and neatly and SLOWLY - me and nish can never do that. and the way you crave for your veggies has made many moms jealous of me :-) I know i am very stingy with candies and junk food but you have always been nice and very few times have made it hard for me by asking those and even the times you ask, I feel you deserve it.
you are always a pleasure to teach and I have been very very happy when I see you grasp things in the first or second attempt itself. It has made my life very easy. otherwise I would have been helpless managing the home, kids and teaching you too. I wish you also become a pleasure to be with at home, not now, in a few years at least. I understand that this is your monkeying phase, that nothing can give you more pleasure than doing many silly things and these will be the memories later on and that I will also threaten you when you grow up of having such monkey offsprings ;-)
Though I am the harshest with you, I scream at you many many times, sometimes scare you out when both of you become so hard to handle, am too tired and exhausted and when you don't understand I lose my temper - I still love you so so much. Many people around say that you will be a whiz kid, genius etc. But I will be very happy as long as you are happy with what you do in life. I wish that you are filled with abundant health and happiness always. And I truly hope you will be a fine example for your little brother.
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